There’s so many different types of personal lubricants. How do you know which one is right for you? Do you even need a sexual lubricant?
Personal lubricants are definitely necessary. Whether you are alone or with a partner, they are needed to help you get closer, connect and stay longer. Learn why you need lubricant and how to choose the right personal lubricant for you.
Why do you need to use personal lubricants?
The majority of the time, our bodies produce enough natural lubricant everyday and we don’t even notice it. However, if you are having sex or using sex toys, you may need more than what nature provides, especially if you are experiencing hormonal changes, are on medications or are experiencing stress.
If you are using adult sex toys, it’s always wise to use personal lubricant. Toys tend to dry up as they are exposed to air, making for uncomfortable re-entry. Ouch!
For anal sex, keep in mind that the anus produces no moisture of it’s own. Therefore, it’s always recommended to use anal lubricant with anal play.
For those of you who are concerned, using personal lubricant is not a sign of a broken body or a failed libido. It is similar to taking aspirin for a headache—you just need a little help.
Do you need to use personal lubricant if you produce a lot of vaginal moisture?
You still might want to use sexual lubricant because it can add sensation to the moisture. (More on that below.)
Should you buy what your friend recommends?
Just because your friend recommends a particular type or brand of lubricant, it doesn’t mean that it will work for you. It is normal for people to have different physical reactions to things and be turned on in different ways. Find what works best for you and experiment!
Hopefully, you now understand why personal lubricant is so important to use. The next step is to choose your base.
Water Based Lubricants – The most common type of sexual lubricant
- The first ingredient is water or aloe
- Feels cool on the skin and can get sticky or tacky after a while
- Slippery but it also tends to dry up – reactivate with water or saliva
- Can be used with vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, oral sex, and masturbation
- Offers the most variety: flavors, warming, and stimulating
- Washes from the body quickly and does not stain (unless color is added)
- Compatible with all adult sex toys and latex condoms
- A tiny amount of silicone can be added (which produces a white or creamy lubricant) to make it feel more slippery
Silicone Based Lubricants
- Always slippery but never feels sticky or tacky
- A little goes a long way (and lasts longer than water based lubricants)
- Doesn’t dry out and excellent for water play
- Compatible with latex, rubber, glass & plastic
- Do NOT use with Silicone Toys (it breaks down the silicone of the toy and may start to smell)
- Can be used with vaginal intercourse, 潤滑劑 anal intercourse, and masturbation
- Can be used for body massage
- High quality lubricants (with only 2-3 ingredients) are inert and won’t change a woman’s pH level, i.e. no threat of yeast infections.
- May leave oily residue on sheets but washes away with soap & water
Oil Based Lubricants (Not petroleum jelly!)
- Good as a daily moisturizer
- Slick & doesn’t dry out easily – only need a small amount
- Can be used with masturbation or vaginal intercourse
- Limited risk of irritation or yeast infections if they are made with all natural ingredients; however, if not washed off after use, it may clog pores and leave unwanted residue that can harbor bacteria and yeast
- Safe for all types of sex toys
- Never use with rubber or latex condoms
- Stains and can be difficult to wash off
- Not recommended for anal play since bacteria thrives in oil
Once you have chosen your base, now you need to decide what variety you want:
- Anal – Thicker lubricant that stays on the skin longer providing a more comfortable feeling by reducing friction & sensation
- Flavored – Designed to enhance oral sex
- Glycerin-free – Glycerin mimics sugar, which causes yeast infections or irritation
- Paraben-free – Parabens are a common preservative that can irritate some women
- Repairing – Contains ingredients that heal & repair vaginal tissue, soothes and relieves vaginal dryness and adds more moisture
- Stimulating – Designed to increase sensation for both partners; contains active ingredients like menthol or pepper that increases blood flood and awakens nerve endings
- Women’s – Thinner lubricant where you feel more sensation without friction; perfect as a “kick starter” until her own moisture takes over
Please keep in mind to buy the best lubricant you can afford, preferabbly with natural or organic ingredients. Personal lubricants are not regulated like other products. So, manufacturers can put any amount of chemicals in the lubricant to make it slippery. Those chemicals then end up in your body.